C. J. Consulting and Services

Claire J. Salkowski, Principal Consultant


Workshops

Partners in Peace and the

Peaceable Education Program 

Presented by

CJ Consulting and Services 



Faculty Workshop Topics



Creating the Context 



It Takes a Village: Building Community and the School Culture

This workshop focuses on the facets of real community for each constituent group of the whole school community, and what it means to the school as they move toward becoming a peaceable school. Participants will look at each facet of community for every constituent group to assess the school’s effectiveness as a true community. 



Gather Round: The Importance of Class Meetings and Circle Gatherings

Creating a sense of community in the classroom begins with allowing students the time and space to voice their concerns, share their interests, discuss the things that are important to them, and feel connected to one another. Community is built upon relationships and classroom meetings or circle gatherings are proven approaches and simple structures that empower students to listen to one another in deeper ways and to collectively plan, make decisions and solve problems as they arise. Participants will learn several models and practice the art of gathering as a key focus of implementing restorative practices in the classroom and school.



Ain’t Misbehav’in: Positive Discipline and Behavioral Management that Works

Applying some simple strategies and structures in every classroom helps to create a unified school approach and a consistency that is needed for the whole school community. When students are given the opportunity to create their own rules and “operating principles” they are more invested in and can be held accountable for classroom behaviors. Participants will learn about the goals of misbehavior and how to apply natural and logical consequences as well as how to avoid the confusion of “soft language” and unclear expectations. Students can then learn to become self-disciplined and regulate their own behavior appropriately.



From Ballistic to Balanced: Defusion Strategies for Out of Control Behavior

At times children can lose control and act in very inappropriate ways. Understanding the dynamics of behavior and having a carefully thought out approach to handling it will result in a positive learning experience for the child so that they can begin to modify their behavior in productive ways. This workshop will allow participants to learn several strategies that will manage difficult behaviors and lead children toward becoming more self-disciplined and thoughtful in their choices and behaviors.



Seeking Self-Evaluators: Encouraging Language vs Praise

This workshop explores the difference between using encouraging language rather than praise and its effect on children’s ability to become self evaluators rather than relying on others to judge their worth or progress. This is a critical ability if we want our children to become independent and able to accurately assess their own effectiveness. Participants will take part in several practical exercises and role plays to practice this specific skill set.



The PEP Program: Preparing Peacemakers for a Less than Peaceful World

This workshop will give participants an overview of the goals and methods used in the Peaceable Education Program as it is applied in their school. The goal is to create a truly peaceable and restorative school environment. Activities and experiential exercise will be presented which are representative of the skills taught in the program.



Me: Developing Self Awareness



Creating Capable Kids: Self Esteem and Affirmation

What children need most is to feel that they are loveable and capable. To be a truly healthy personality we need to feel a solid sense of self and our own self worth. Understanding how self-esteem develops helps us make sure that we are nurturing our children’s self-esteem in positive ways. This workshop will help participants learn ways to affirm children in consistent and tangible ways, which helps to ensure that we are developing a positive self image.



Focus on Feelings: The Other Side of the Brain

Our emotions play a major role in how we conduct ourselves each day. Developing an “emotional intelligence” and social emotional competencies is critical to our relationships which affect how and what we learn. This workshop explores the link between emotions, thoughts and behavior and offers creative and engaging ways to help children identify emotions in themselves and others and to express them appropriately.



A Still Quiet Place : Learning Relaxation, Reflection and Meditation Skills for Contemplative Practices

We live in very stressful times and even children often deal with more stress than they should have to. Helping them learn how to de-stress is an important life skill that will keep them healthy throughout their lives. In a relaxed state we are free to begin the process of self-reflecting on the deeper issues in our lives which helps us fully develop. Simple meditation skills can be taught to children and used at home to assist children in the work of personal growth. This workshop shares the techniques and strategies for this important work.



Temper Temper: Anger and Anger Management

Children are often overwhelmed by their anger and do not know how to express it in positive ways which often leads to conflict. This workshop will explore the nature of anger, its powerful effect in our lives and how we can use it for positive ends rather than letting it spiral out of control. Specific strategies for managing anger will be demonstrated and experienced by participants in an experiential way.



To Thine Own Self Be True: Type ,Temperament, and Learning Styles

This workshop will give participants a basic understanding of the filters we all wear and how personality develops creating the lens through which we perceive the world, make decisions and behave. Our type and temperament become the foundation of who we are and influence every aspect of our lives. The concepts of type and temperament will be explored by participants first identifying their own type and then looking at their students. Understanding the differences between the various types and temperaments can mean the difference between constant strife or genuine understanding and acceptance of the basic differences between us.



Developing a Moral Compass: Ethics and Character Education for the Classroom

Our basic character is built upon our values, our sense of what is right and wrong, and our willingness to demonstrate such in our behaviors. This workshop will explore the ways to help children develop a strong sense of ethics and build their own character through various activities and approaches that can be built into any classroom.



You: Developing Awareness of Others



R-E-S-P-E-C-T: Perspective, Respect and Disrespect

Everyone needs to feel respected but what is respect to one may not be respect to another. This workshop explores the dynamics of what constitutes respectful behaviors and communications based on our various perspectives. Participants will learn about checking for perspectives, respectful language and behaviors through a series of experiential activities and role plays.



All Together Now: Cooperation, Collaboration and Group decision Making

Learning to cooperate is an essential skill for getting along in the world and yet our society reinforces extreme competition. This workshop shares the research and benefits of learning to be cooperative and a sequenced approach to teaching children cooperation skills by first beginning with games, then activities and finally in academic cooperative learning. Functioning as a group and making group decisions is also a valuable life skill and processes will be shared for teaching children this essential ability as well. 



Why Are We Different: Appreciating Diversity and Developing Global Awareness

As society becomes more complex and the world grows smaller it is imperative that we learn to understand the differences between us in positive and productive ways. This workshop will share a host of ways to expose children to an understanding and appreciation of the differences between us at home and across the world.



Us: Developing and Maintaining Positive Relationships



Really Rappin’: Basic Communication Skills for Every Day Life

The communication process is the glue that holds our relationships together or not. Good communication is truly a life skill. When communication breaks down we often find ourselves in conflict. This workshop explores the fundamental skills for listening reflectively and speaking effectively with the use of I-statements and direct communication. Participants will practice this basic skill set in interactive exercises and role plays.



The Conflict Controversy: Understanding Conflict and Conflict Styles

This workshop looks at the nature of conflict and the various styles that we adopt for responding to it. Participants will discover the various types, sources, levels and responses to conflict as it relates to everyday life and our effectiveness in dealing with conflict with an emphasis on developing restorative practices for the classroom and school.



When Everyone Wins: The Magic of Mediation

This workshop introduces participants to the process of mediation with an experience of the process through role plays and other engaging activities. Participants will learn about the process, its use in the classroom, the special role of the mediator and the skills needed to make mediation successful so that everyone wins.



It’s All in How you Say It: Supportive and Defensive Communication

Communication seems like a simple process until we begin to look at how it so easily breaks down. This workshop explores the dynamics of both supportive and defensive communications. Participants will learn how to become supportive and avoid creating a defensive reaction in others by participating in experiential exercises and role plays. 



What to Do When They‘re Angry at You: Assertive Communication

This workshop will help participants practice the skills for dealing with difficult people. Learning to defuse a situation and move from anger to real problem solving allows us to make our point and turn a difficult situation into a positive and productive one.



Listening from the Heart: Compassionate Listening

Compassionate Listening is a model based on the knowledge that lasting reconciliation and transformation occur when dialogue emerges from a place of deep listening and mutual empathy. Through an experiential format, participants discover the power of listening to the essence of others and learn the skills necessary to bring this vital peacemaking technique to inner, interpersonal and community lives.



Problem Solving, Creative and Critical Thinking Skills

Learning to solve problems is critical for success in life. The process and procedure for teaching children this essential series of skills will be shared through interactive exercises and classroom activities that can be applied to daily classroom life. 



A Wide Range of Options: Alternative Dispute Resolution

This workshop looks at the various approaches used to resolve disputes from negotiations to litigation. Participants will explore the dynamics of choice and power for each approach and its appropriate use in society through experiential activities and role play practice.



The Unbroken Circle: Restorative Justice and the Circle Process

The emerging field of restorative justice and the use of the Circle process to resolve conflicts, explore difficult topics, serious offenses or simply support one another is an exciting way of learning to relate to one another. Circles are based on the belief that there is collective wisdom to be shared in the group, especially when participants share a common vision and set of values. This workshop explores the dynamics and use of the Circle in the school community and offers participants their own experience of the Circle. 



The Schoolyard Bully and Bullying Prevention

Violence in schools has been a growing concern and it often starts with bullying and being bullied. This workshop will take a critical look at what bullying is , why, where and how it happens, how to stop it and ultimately how to prevent it from contaminating the school community. Strategies will be shared for use in the classroom or whole school.



Being Peace: Understanding the Nature of Peace and Peacemakers Around the World

To create a truly peaceable classroom and school community members should have a deeper understanding of the nature of peace, what it is, how we begin to create it and how it can be manifest in the world. Knowing about the many peacemakers throughout history, culture and time allows student to discover real role models and begin to act as peacemakers in their own life. This workshop will expose participants to the basic concepts of peace and some of the most well known and beloved peacemakers of all time to share them with students at every level.



Additional Topics


Special Needs A Special Breed: Understanding and Supporting Children with Learning and Behavioral Differences

This workshop provides an overall framework for understanding the needs and behaviors of children with learning and behavioral differences that may not always be easily met in the classroom. Various types of special needs will be presented with a process and protocol for identifying and beginning to remediate skills both academic and behavioral. This workshop provides teachers with the understanding and fundamental knowledge necessary to be able to help the students who need it most.



Conflict, Communication and Colleagues

This workshop will explore the specific dynamics that often contribute to conflict among colleagues in the school community. Conflicts between faculty, parents and administration will be discussed and examined within the context of particular conflict resolution options and specific communication skills that seek to meet everyone’s needs. Specific skills will be identified, presented and practiced.



Becoming a Mindful School and Classroom Leader

This workshop will explore the concept and practice of mindfulness as it relates to school and classroom leadership. The goal is for those who work with children to recognize the value and need for creating their own space for contemplative learning, growing, and becoming truly mindful as they practice the art of leadership.

School and classroom leaders have immense stresses and responsibilities with little time for self-reflection or self-renewal. This workshop is designed to help school and classroom leaders recognize the value and need for cultivating mindful practices in their personal lives so that they can bring the best of themselves to their work on a daily basis. Within the framework of the Circle, participants will be guided through a series of exercises to cultivate practical yet powerful mindful practices o that they can become truly mindful school leaders.



The 3Rs for Teachers and Staff: Rest, Renewal and Reflection

This workshop is designed to help teachers and staff recognize the value and need for cultivating rest, renewal and reflection in their personal lives so that they can bring the best of themselves to their work on a daily basis. Within the framework of the Circle, participants will be guided through a series of queries and exercises to identify their own inner core and most deeply held values which inform and guide their work so that they can bring the best of themselves to their work and truly cultivate peace within. This can also be expanded into a retreat series that allows faculty to rest, reflect and renew with their vocation as educators.



Self Care for the Teacher’s Soul Retreat Series

Within the context of a retreat like setting faculty are offered the opportunity to gather and focus on self-care of the soul, self-renewal and the creation of a community of support for becoming more intentional and mindful in their daily lives. The more passionate and dedicated we are about our work and our life, the more vital it is that we take the time to renew ourselves- to reconnect with the wellsprings of our work and our life. Our process is rooted in the belief that our service to others flows from the identity and integrity of our life and invites us to reclaim our own wholeness and clarity of purpose.

These gatherings are open to anyone interested in caring for the wellbeing of their inner nature and will offer an invitation for:

  • Self-awareness
  • Self-renewal
  • Supporting each other
  • Sharing experiences and techniques
  • Gaining clarity in times of transition
  • Developing a way forward

Parent Workshops


Understanding and Resolving Conflict Peacefully

 

The Conflict Controversy: Understanding Conflict and Conflict Styles

This workshop looks at the nature of conflict and the various styles that we adopt for responding to it. . Participants will discover the various types, sources, levels and responses to conflict as it relates to everyday life and our effectiveness in dealing with conflict with an emphasis on developing restorative practices for the home.


When Everyone Wins: The Magic of Mediation

This workshop introduces participants to the process of mediation with an experience of the process through role plays and other engaging activities. Participants will learn about the process, its use, the special role of the mediator and the skills needed to make mediation successful so that everyone wins.


It Takes a Village: Building Community and the School Culture

This workshop focuses on the facets of real community for each constituent group of the whole school community and what it means to the school as they move toward becoming a peaceable school.


The PEP Program: Preparing Peacemakers for a Less than Peaceful World

This workshop will give participants an overview of the goals and methods used in the Peaceable Education Program as it is applied in their school or community organization.  The goal is to create a truly peaceable environment. Activities and experiential exercise will be presented which are representative of the skills taught in the program.


Understanding How Children Develop

 

Creating Capable Kids: Self Esteem and Affirmation

What children need most is to feel that they are loveable and capable. To be a truly healthy personality we need to feel a solid sense of self and our own self worth. Understanding how self-esteem develops helps us make sure that we are nurturing our children’s self-esteem in positive ways. This workshop will help participants learn ways to affirm children in consistent and tangible ways, which helps to ensure that we are developing a positive self image. 


Focus on Feelings : The Other Side of the Brain

Our emotions play a major role in how we conduct ourselves each and every day. This workshop explores the link between emotions, thoughts and behavior and offers creative and engaging ways to help children identify emotions in themselves and others and to express them appropriately.


A Chip Off the Old Block: Exploring Personality Type and Temperament

This workshop will give parents a basic understanding of the filters we all wear and how personality develops creating the lens through which we perceive the world, make decisions and behave. Our type and temperament become the foundation of who we are and influence every aspect of our lives. The concepts of type and temperament will be explored by participants first identifying their own type and then looking at their children. Understanding the differences between the various types and temperaments can mean the difference between constant strife or genuine understanding and acceptance of the basic differences between us. 


The Stress Proof Child

We live in very stressful times and even children often deal with more stress than they should have to. Helping them learn how to de-stress is an important life skill that will keep them healthy throughout their lives. In a relaxed state we are free to begin the process of reflecting on deeper issues in our lives which helps us grow. Simple meditation skills can be taught to children and used at home to assist children in the work of personal growth. This workshop shares the techniques and strategies for this important work.


Parenting Peacefully

Really Rappin’: Basic Communication Skills for Every Day Life

The communication process is the glue that holds our relationships together or not. Good communication is truly a life skill. When communication breaks down we often find ourselves in conflict. This workshop explores the fundamental skills for listening reflectively and speaking effectively by using I-statements. Participants will practice this basic skill set in interactive exercises and role plays.


Your Happy Home: Parenting Peacefully

We all want to be good parents. But there are times when parenting is difficult and exhausting. We wonder why life isn’t simpler and why everyone can’t just behave. Participants will learn how to create a more loving and caring environment for family members by using encouraging language and by understanding the goals of misbehavior. Parents will learn how to apply natural or logical consequences so that children become self-disciplined and can regulate their own behavior.


Time Out: Resolving Family Conflicts

This workshop offers the tools to handle family conflict like a pro. Participants will learn how to communicate more effectively and resolve conflicts without violence. Family members will learn how to avoid “fouls” and “fight fairly” without causing harm to the relationships that mean the most to us.


Seeking Self-Evaluators: Encouraging Language vs Praise

This workshop explores the difference between using encouraging language rather than praise and its effect on children’s ability to become self evaluators rather than relying on others to judge their worth or progress. This is a critical ability if we want our children to become independent and able to accurately assess their own effectiveness. Participants will take part in several practical exercises and role plays to practice this specific skill set.


It’s All in How you Say It: Supportive and Defensive Communication

Communication seems like a simple process until we begin to look at how it so easily breaks down. This workshop explores the dynamics of both supportive and defensive communications. Participants will learn how to become supportive and avoid creating a defensive reaction in others by participating in experiential exercises and role plays. 


What to Do When They ‘re Angry at You: Assertive Communication

This workshop will help participants practice the skills for dealing with difficult people. Learning to defuse a situation and move from anger to real problem solving allows us to make our point and turn a difficult situation into a positive and productive one.


R-E-S-P-E-C-T: Perspective, Respect and Disrespect

Everyone needs to feel respected but what is respect to one may not be respect to another. This workshop explores the dynamics of what constitutes respectful behaviors and communications based on our various perspectives. Participants will learn about respectful language and behaviors through a series of experiential activities and role plays.


Temper Temper: Anger and Anger Management

Children are often overwhelmed by their anger and do not know how to express it in positive ways which often leads to conflict. This workshop will explore the nature of anger, its powerful effect in our lives and how we can use it for positive ends rather than letting it spiral out of control. Specific strategies for managing anger will be demonstrated and experienced by participants in an experiential way.


From Ballistic to Balanced: Defusion Strategies for Out of Control Behavior

At times children can lose control and act in very inappropriate ways. Understanding the dynamics of their behavior and having a carefully thought out approach to handling it will result in a positive learning experience for the child so that they can begin to modify their behavior in productive ways.


The Schoolyard Bully and How to Bully-Proof Your Child

Violence in schools has been a growing concern and it often starts with bullying and being bullied. This workshop will take a critical look at what bullying is , why, where and how it happens and how to stop it and ultimately prevent it from contaminating the school community. Strategies will be shared for use in the home, classroom school or community.


Each workshop topic can be tailored for an hour to three hours. Workshops will also be developed specifically for the needs and interest of the group.

C.J. Consulting and Services

Claire J. Salkowski, Principal Trainer

12628 Fork RD

Fork, MD 21051

443-903-1039

[email protected]

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